Questions to ask to find the right therapist

relationship therapy cryingSo your experiencing some problems in your marriage or relationship and have both agreed that couples counselling is for you. It’s important for you as a consumer to be informed and educated about how to find the best counselling and therapy for you when you are looking for it. I’d like to give you a few tips on how you can make sure your therapist is well trained in psychosexual, couples and relationship work.

Useful questions to ask yourself:

1. What location, time and day can you realistically commit to on a weekly basis?

2. How much can you afford to pay weekly?

3. Do you want short or long-term therapy? Is it a specific issue you want to work through or are you interested in doing deeper work?

4. Do you want to work with a man or a woman?

5. Are language or cultural differences an issue for you?

6. What do you want to get out of the therapy?

7. Are you hoping that the therapist will solve your problems?

8. Are you really ready to start therapy and commit to working in the sessions?

9. Ask a professional or friend if they know of a good therapist.

You may not realise that not all counsellors, therapists and psychologists are specifically trained in relationship counselling. General counselling training covers only one or two units related to working with couples & relationships. Specific post-graduate training in couples, marriage, relationship counselling & sex therapy is necessary and important to achieve effective results with your relationship issue.

If you’re looking for relationship/couples counselling or sex therapy, I encourage you to interview your prospective counsellor (via phone or email) before making a first appointment.

Useful questions to ask a therapist before committing to working with them:

1. Are you a qualified/accredited therapist? What kind of training did you have? If you are looking to see a couple’s therapist they should be trained in couple work – ask how long the training course was for. It’s ok to ask specific questions.

2. Are you a member of The College of Sex and Relationship Therapists (COSRT)

3. How many years have you been seeing clients?

4. Do you specialise in a particular area? If you have a specific concern ask if they have worked with others on this issue.

5. What is the average number of sessions you normally see clients for?

6. What is expected of me?

Your relationship is important. It’s your right to make sure that you only work with someone that is specifically trained in couples and relationships work, to give you the best chance of getting the results you want. It’s unfortunate that some therapists and counsellors do work with couples without having specific training or skills in this area.

For your information, I have post graduate level training specifically in couples counselling and psychosexual therapy, my training course was for 2 years. I am an accredited member of COSRT as well as being a Trustee of the board for COSRT and am a member of BACP.

I’ve been working with individuals and couples since 2011 and I’m always engaged in developing my skills by attending workshops and trainings, as well as reading the latest research in the field of psychosexual & relationship work.

How can I help?

To ask about my psychosexual, relationship & couples work, feel free to call me on 07979 682 933 or you can email me on my contact page with any questions you have. The time and effort you put into finding a therapist will help ensure you find the right person for you.

If you’re not yet ready to book an appointment, that’s ok. You can still call me to discuss how I may be able to help you. I look forward to hearing from you.